“I hate two faced people. It’s so hard to decide which face to slap first.” – Anonymous
Everyone has encountered double faced people in their lives. These people tend to be very deceptive. No one knows the actual motive behind this quality of theirs. Most generally stay inactive. But once you do something better than them something they cannot do, and your name and fame begins to fly thick and fast, they become active with the intention to ruin your image. You may tend to avoid them, yet they cannot live without you. One of the probable reasons that can be cited for this illness of theirs is jealousy. They envy you. They know they cannot equal you. So, they try to bring you back to their level of nothingness.
Here is a brief classification of double faced people you may have met or may meet in future. Read and relate:
- The “friend”
The “friend” stays with you as a friend of yours. You tell him/her your secrets because you trust him/her. Without your knowledge, he chucks out all the secrets from you. He has other friend circles where he sits for gossips. And when the gossips begin, all your secrets rush out of his mouth. He is liked by those “other friends” for this quality of his. He may also leak out secrets of other people to you. And the irony is, you may never realise what kind of a friend he is.
- The “colleague”
The “colleague” is very formal with you. He greets you with a fake smile with occasional “Good mornings” and “Good evenings” etc. He tries to make you believe that he is a good acquaintance. But he is one of those who talk behind your back. He has that professional jealousy with you. It’s nothing personal. All he wants is the position, name, fame and status you hold in your professional world.
- The “friend-turned-enemy”
The “friend-turned-enemy” hates you for many reasons, probably known only to him. He hates you like anything. May be that seems to be the best possible revenge for breaking your friendship with him. All he tries to do is to stain your name and image wherever possible. He has the added advantage of knowing many things about you. You can never befriend him again, for he is always against you (with a grudge). When you see him, he acts as if he has not noticed you, or as if he has sorted out everything and has accepted the fact (with ease) that you both can no longer be friends and he can do nothing about it; he has moved on deciding not to harm you in any way. But you never know the level of grudge and hatred he has for you. He may be a major threat to you. He is the deadliest of all the double faced people you have met. How you
face tackle him, it is up to you.
But no matter what kind of people you encounter, keep your calm and be yourself. People will eventually realise and recognize who you are and respect you for what you are. And finally, remember this by Winston Churchill “You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”
© Barnadhya Rwitam Sharma
8 thoughts on “Double Faced People: The 3 Types”
nice one…wish that someone read it and understand… 😉
I love that Churchill quote. I’m a new scientist, and it can be hard when I’m told that my research or my beliefs are wrong. This quote is a great way to remember that the fact that these folks are disagreeing with me might mean that I’m on to something new and possibly even great!
Yeah, exactly! Don’t let others dishearten you. People who cannot live up to their dreams will always find a way to discourage yours. Just ignore them and keep moving. Good luck with your research work! 🙂
So true! Can be sooooo related to my life! Have met them all!
What about if the person is a double faced but the other person doesn’t know. This person talk behind her back and then talk to her like she is her best friend? AND then get scare when we think thst she will be “caught ” talking about the other person? What about the people that knows that someone may have heard them talking bad about someone else and then try to make up a story to the same person trying to “appear” as if the conversation was about someone else and not the current friend? What would be the name for this type of person? What about thst they don’t feel no remorse for anything they said, their only fear is getting caught? Is this still categories as “hypocrite”?
God bless you sir very. Very Nice analysis . i am handling these kind of peopl at my work place since 6 years
. thank you